GRIEF AND METHODS OF COPING
GRIEFAND METHODS OF COPING
Inaccordance with DelespauxEt al (2013) grief can be defined as a natural response to loss ofpeople/things of sentimental value. Basically, it is an emotionalsuffering that an individual experience when what they like isseparated from them. Psychologists have proven that the intensity ofgrief is proportional to the significance of the loss. People tend togrieve more when they lose their family member than losing a phonewhich could be considered as a subtle loss. Nonetheless, any form ofloss can lead to grief. There are five stages of grief:
Inthis stage an individual does not accept that the loss has takenplace. In most cases the individual tries to convince himself thatwhatever had happened to them was maybe a bad dream it a stage ofdisbelief.
Inthis stagethe individual starts to question why whatever has happened. Theindividual may start blaming themselves or other people for theirloss. Anger maybe directed to the people/things they think would havecaused the loss.
Thisstage is marked by the brain trying to figure out what things wouldhave been done differently to alter the end result. For instance fora loved one who might have died on their way to the hospital theindividual would start thinking if only they would have hired achopper then probably they would have gotten to the hospital fasteras opposed to the ambulance they boarded. Thinking that getting tothe hospital faster might have saved their loved one’s life
Thisstage is marked by the individual starting to emotionally separatehimself from the dead loved one. They start to feel the void leftbehind and may even boycott meals or work (Nazaréet al, 2013).
Althoughthis varies from one individual to another, it the stage where theaffected person comes into terms with the loss and they somewhatstart to get a grip of their emotions. If mourning a a person who wassick for some time in this stage the individual may start to acceptthat probably death was better since it saved their loved one a lotof pain and suffering.
Scientifically,there is no proved right or wrong way of grieving. Nonetheless, thereare healthy ways through which people can cope with the pain thatcomes with loss that can help the individual move on with time. Oneof the major ways to dealing with grief is having support of otherpeople maybe relatives or friends. Connecting to other people andtalking to them about the loss can help an individual. According toRobinson & Marwit (2006) anindividual should allow time to experience the emotions and thoughtsopenly to their inner self. Though crying is relative and dependenton individuals, it can also help a big deal in releasing tension andbitterness. Additionally, accepting and acknowledging both sides ofthe coin after the loss has happened can also help in dealing withgrief and moving on. One is also advised to talk to people who havehad similar experiences that is because they may help the individualby advising on how they made it past that grief situation and thatcould also help. Professional help may also be advised in someinstances psychiatrists may assist in stabilizing the emotions.
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