Emotional Intelligence


Emotionalintelligence entails the ability of a person to be mindful and incontrol of their emotions, and be able to display these emotions in arational and unbiased manner when involved with other people withinthe society (Harmon-Jones &amp van Honk, 2012). Emotionalintelligence (EQ) is a rather new concept in the field of psychologyand has taken several researchers to define it fully. The acceptedanalysis of this notion is found using two approaches. These tacticsare the ability model and the mixed models. The ability modelessentially characterizes EQ as a mental capacity while the mixedmodels combine understanding with personality traits. These twomethods are the means through which EQ can be assessed. The abilitymodel focuses on the performance of an individual based on variousquestions they are asked. The results they give can determine theirEQ levels. Mixed models, on the other hand, work by subjectsresponding on their perception on how well they understand emotionalresponses of other people. Four sections make up emotionalintelligence as a whole. These parts are awareness of emotion, usageof emotion to create thought, recognition of emotion, and control ofemotion (Hurley, 2012). Once an individual is in tune with all thesefour essential components, there EQ is higher than average. Thispaper will assess my EQ while interacting socially and will alsocompare and contrast it with a friend of mine.

Thebest method of keeping emotions in check is through ensuring that Iam of good health both mentally and physically (Bower, 2013). For meto achieve a sound mind, I should avoid any substances such as drugsand alcohol that can negatively affect my reasoning. I can alsoenrich my mind by reading books and journals that will increase myknowledge. My physical health can be attained through a balanced dietand regular exercise. Once I make these practices a habit, it islikely that I can be able to control my emotions.

Aperson that has no control over their emotions is likely to act in anunacceptable manner when faced with stressful situations. Thosearound them will eventually shun such an individual due to theirinability to manage their responses (Hurley, 2012).

Thebest strategy that can help in the management of emotions is throughproper education. From a young age, students should be taught thevalues and norms accepted in the society. Once these students getolder, they will recall the lessons learned and be able to controltheir emotions in different situations. Another method that canassist in managing emotions is through psychiatric assistance andanger management classes for individuals that lack control. Withproper guidance and patience, these people can eventually be able tohandle their emotional responses (Bower, 2013).

Toensure that my emotional state is appropriate for a given socialinteraction, I have to assess the people that I am with and the typeof environment. I should also be keen in understanding the facialexpressions of the person I am with to try and recognize theiremotional state and this finding will make me decide my reaction(Harmon-Jones &amp van Honk, 2012). When I am involved with thosethat are close to me such as family members, friends or even mysignificant other, my responses have to be on par with what we aredoing. In a serious situation, I have to be calm and refrain fromirrational acts. I should keenly listen to what is being spokenbefore I chose my response. This action also relates to whether I amwith my peers or with someone older. When with my peers I can expresswhether I am upset by something, though, at a subtle level. Withsomeone older, I will have to hold my peace since I have to showrespect for that person.

AfterI had compared my EQ with my friend’s, I saw that most of ourresponses for the different situations were almost similar. We wereboth in control of our emotions and this realization greatly enhancedour friendship because we felt that it is easier to deal with someonewith the same emotional intelligence as yourself.


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Hurley,C. M. (2012). Do you see what I see? Learning to detect microexpressions of emotion.&nbspMotivationand Emotion,&nbsp36(3),371-381.